Punishment and reward equal an external locus of control. In order for punishment to exist someone has to stage it. Consequences, on the the other hand, equal known outcomes, positive and negative. We like to have the children help make the rules, and with them, assign the consequences. It is always amazing to us that the children are often harder on offenders than we would have been. Consequences always have known rules and known outcomes, they are not delivered at the whim of another person.
What we are trying to establish is rules that will ensure the safety, respectful living environment, and opportunity for growth, happiness, and the ability for each child to fulfill their 5 needs.
Did your parents ever tell you "It isn't what you do when I"m looking that I am interested in, it is what you do when I'm not looking that I am interested in."? That is what an internal locus of control looks like. Consequences allow a person to develop internally a belief system in which they can evaluate their behavioral choices and, and therefore control them.
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