Feedback and criticism

The difference in the way we choose to evaluate will show in the results.  In the past, before we knew Choice Theory, we used what was called then, "Constructive Criticism".  Dr. Glasser called that phrase the most offensive oxymoron of all.  What about the result?  Those on the receiving end had to stuff their thoughts and feelings, and I doubt anyone had any idea of how to make things "more right".
At Atkinson Family Services we work very hard at learning and using evaluation, both individually and in our groups.  We use feedback and evaluation; which reports what happened or what was left out.  We use this information to make a better plan.  Everyone feels good about that.
Criticism, on the other hand places a value judgement on the situation and/or persons involved. Nothing improves under those circumstances.  No one knows how to make things better.
  We are using a Choice Theory book called LEADERSHIP SIMPLE, by Steve and Jill Morris.You can find more information on their website; ww.choiceworks.com.

What a week!

As you may know, we have been working on our accrediation for a year.  We completed our first review, and then two weeks later we had our office opening celebration.  Our people really worked hard to have everything ready.  We were proud of our accomplishments, although our building wasn't really completed.
The priest from Our Lady of Assumption church came and blessed our building and later the pastor from the Roseville Seventh Day Advantist church also gave a wonderful blessing for our building and our business.
It was a wonderful time of reflection and thankfulness for the people who work with us, for the children we work for, and the job we all feel we are called to do.

Punishment vs. consequences 2

Punishment and reward equal an external locus of control.  In order for punishment to exist someone has to stage it.  Consequences, on the the other hand, equal known outcomes, positive and negative.  We like to have the children help make the rules, and with them, assign the consequences.  It is always amazing to us that the children are often harder on offenders than we would have been.  Consequences always have known rules and known outcomes, they are not delivered at the whim of another person.
What we are trying to establish is rules that will ensure the safety, respectful living environment, and opportunity for growth, happiness, and the ability for each child to fulfill their 5 needs.
Did your parents ever tell you "It isn't what you do when I"m looking that I am interested in, it is what you do when I'm not looking that I am interested in."?  That is what an internal locus of control looks like.  Consequences allow a person to develop internally a belief system in which they can evaluate their behavioral choices and, and therefore control them.